I was was trying to put our laundry away after I got to sleep in. my husband was watching the kiddos and i heard the kids crying. i just stopped doing the laundry and went downstairs to see if my husband needed help with the kids. they were sitting on the couch and having a random meltdown while I asked my husband what happened.
Random meltdown…the usual. the next day I let him sleep in and I watched the kids. I got out some play dough, put on some Disney music for us to listen to in the background and gave my son toys to keep him occupied in his high chair. They kiddos were quiet and an hour later Jon came downstairs and told me thanks for letting him sleep in. He was surprised to see the kids quiet and happy compared to the day before.
he said, “you win” and I was confused and said, “I win?”
he said, “The kids are happy and you let me sleep in. You win.” When he said that, I was super happy. It’s not the word “win” it’s the YOU part. I did a good job and the kids don’t only have tantrums around me. They do that around him too.
Most often I feel like I have more constant challenges with the kids and I try to find ways to keep them calm so the house can be less “chaotic”. A lot of times, I wonder if I’m doing a good job with the kiddos. It felt gratifying that although getting out the play dough and giving my son some toys to keep him occupied seem so little to me, but I didn’t realize it made a HUGE difference.
Jon wins for letting me know I am a good mom and it’s s hard job. Although he tries to tell me that all the time, that day stood out for me the most.