I remember when I was talking to some other mom friend who was feeling under the weather, she was struggling trying to “hold the fort” and felt like she had to do it all but its hard doing that and trying to get better at the same time. I would say rest but she would say ” but there is so much she has to do.” Times she would be trying to cook for out of town guests coming, take care of her kid, then try get all the errands done. It becomes overwhelming.
Then i thought to myself. Parents are usually busy trying to take care of everyone but who is taking care of them when they really need assistance? I feel like after being a mom im wearing that invisible cloak from Harry Potter. When some family visits, they are really visiting to see the kids, not you. It’s the common thing I suppose.
This can be an introverts dream since I was never really good at small talk. However, I find myself repeating myself often because I would be talking but no one sees my mouth moving. I know im a soft talker, but it does start feeling frustrating when i feel like im having a conversation with myself. Now and then, it would be nice to not repeat myself. I may just need Siri to take some notes for others to read afterwards.
While my friend was struggling I got her a tea to help her feel a little better. I said days like that where I miss having my parents asking me if I need gingerale and crackers or asking how I am doing when I am under the weather too. Although it probably didnt change her situation, I know at least for me, knowing that some people still treat you like they geuinely still care about your well-being and make her feel she is not invisible, would make me feel better.
At least I know this invisibility cloak doesn’t work around the kids.